against the grain

In a way that differs from what people usually do or expect.

• Her choice went against the grain.
• He went against the grain by refusing to compete.
• Their unusual approach runs against the grain in this industry.

Similar words: against convention, against the tide

Common phrases: go against the grain, swim against the grain

Across the direction of the lines in wood, often making its surface rough when you cut or smooth it.

• Do not plane against the grain.
• Cutting against the grain left the board rough.
• She accidentally sanded against the grain and scratched the wood.

Similar words: across the grain

Opposites: with the grain

Common phrases: cut against the grain, plane against the grain, sand against the grain

In a way that feels wrong or uncomfortable because it conflicts with your usual character or wishes.

• Lying goes against the grain with me.
• Asking for money went against the grain with her.
• It goes against the grain to praise work I dislike.

How to use it: go against the grain with someone (Accepting help went against the grain with him.)

Similar words: against your nature, reluctantly

Common phrases: go against the grain, against the grain emotionally

Across or opposite to the natural direction of fibers or hairs.

• Slice the beef against the grain.
• He shaved against the grain and irritated his skin.
• Cutting meat against the grain makes it easier to chew.

Opposites: with the grain

Common phrases: slice against the grain, shave against the grain